Rick 381
Boob Enthusiast
Years ago my mother told me, "I hope you have kids who are just like you so you have to go through all the shit you put me through.
If you have kids, how are you coping?
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Guitar Heel
Demented Trick
Fortunately, we have full custody, and the Dad is in Texas and doesn't butt in much. We do, however, have his grandparents around the corner, and the different rules thing is a daily problem. They refuse to enforce anything, and so then I wind up the hard ass as well. We have quarantined though, even from them, as they refuse to treat this problem seriously.
rhino
Kick Henry Jackassowski
If that’s your expectation that’s what you’ll get. It’s like saying a child is in the terrible 2s. Fuck that. The 2s weren’t terrible. There were times that were difficult, just like there are now with hormones and all the shit that comes with that, but it’s not terrible.
I sent this to the grandkids last night. It seemed to help.
micwalt
Too Controversial To Have An Athleisure Line
My son is 16. He's a good kid, on the spectrum, can be a handful, but basically a nice person.
He spent the last week doing e-school, which went pretty well. We've got spring break for the next two weeks, so we would've all been on a road trip together anyway.
We all went for a 3-mile walk this morning, followed by him and me making breakfast together, then we picked a shit ton of blood oranges from our tree and juiced them.
The long-term plan is to play games together and do puzzles, and find TV shows and movies that we can all watch. But then we'll all need some alone time doing our own things too.
I've also tasked him with setting a goal for himself to learn some new game-making software he's been eyeing, and to complete a level of his own creation.
He spent the last week doing e-school, which went pretty well. We've got spring break for the next two weeks, so we would've all been on a road trip together anyway.
We all went for a 3-mile walk this morning, followed by him and me making breakfast together, then we picked a shit ton of blood oranges from our tree and juiced them.
The long-term plan is to play games together and do puzzles, and find TV shows and movies that we can all watch. But then we'll all need some alone time doing our own things too.
I've also tasked him with setting a goal for himself to learn some new game-making software he's been eyeing, and to complete a level of his own creation.
Guitar Heel
Demented Trick
Nice. We've been walking a lot too, in areas that aren't very populated. Trying to get some of his energy out.
We've been letting him choose some of the subjects they study. He has interest in everything until it comes to learning about it in a structured way...lol.
We have a thing over here called the John Muir Award and it's all about doing educational stuff but outdoors on a fun way.
Best training I've ever done was with them. 20 mad teachers building houses for hedgehogs, hugging trees and playing hide and seek in the wilderbess.
DinoMikeSr
I have the box
I'm totally out of touch with raising 9 year old boys today. At that age though I loved cutting grass with the riding mower and did ours and a neighbors. There was no weed eating then as there were no weed eaters. I trimmed tall grass with a sling blade. Plus I got to earn some money. Our neighbor was a carpenter who could do it all and while dad was out on the truck he would let me help in his shop. He would prep a lot of raw wood for his jobs so I helped ripping lumber on a table saw and then sending it though a plainer. He taught me how to sharpen his wood chisels on a grinding wheel without messing them up making them razor sharp. I'd help him change oil in his truck by climbing up in the engine compartment and pouring the oil in his engine. Checking and cleaning the air filter etc. I was very young doing all this starting when I was at least 6 or 7. I thought it was me as a kid doing "man stuff". He taught me to shoot and maintain a gun starting around the same age. He taught me to bird, squirrel, rabbit, and deer hunt and how to clean and prep game to eat. My mom worked but his wife was a stay at home wife,home maker, who could also do it all. I was basically just hanging doing small chores that ended up teaching me to exist. I never asked to do it was just if I ever came around and he was doing something he just had me jump in and help and it all seemed so cool to do.
When my dad was home it was the same thing. He would be working on the truck and I'd be hanging close by and he's yell out get me a 1/2 wrench and I would go hunt it down. Bring me a 1/2 inch ratchet, short extension, with a 3/4 socket and I would hunt it down and take it to him and just watch. It use to make me think that I was an extension of him and I felt worth something.
When my dad was home it was the same thing. He would be working on the truck and I'd be hanging close by and he's yell out get me a 1/2 wrench and I would go hunt it down. Bring me a 1/2 inch ratchet, short extension, with a 3/4 socket and I would hunt it down and take it to him and just watch. It use to make me think that I was an extension of him and I felt worth something.
MIJ fan
Baimunized
My sister & brother-in-law had two girls & my brother & sister-in-law had two girls.
All four of those girls have at least once within their lives made their respective parent's lives Hell.
Me, my sister, and my brother; we all three gave my parents Hell at one point in time, and it was not being two year olds.
Damn; seven outta seven .............. Mom scores ...........
I assume my (late) mother's rather insightful nature proved true in respect to the quote I previously posted.
YMMV
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Help!I'maRock!
Mediocringly Derivative
I’ve mostly been at work and have done my best to take the pressure off my wife when I come home. But the worm will turn very soon as she has work obligations as well, and frankly, they’re much more important that mine.
Our son is 5 and in all day pre-k. His teachers have been sending videos daily, and really making the case for us to keep him there for as many years as possible, provided we can afford it. The school goes up to 6th grade.
Since there’s no way to not be fully hands on with a 5 year old, we’re doing all the things we did before, just without the help of being at school. Unfortunately, resocialization will be a thing whenever he goes back.
Our son is 5 and in all day pre-k. His teachers have been sending videos daily, and really making the case for us to keep him there for as many years as possible, provided we can afford it. The school goes up to 6th grade.
Since there’s no way to not be fully hands on with a 5 year old, we’re doing all the things we did before, just without the help of being at school. Unfortunately, resocialization will be a thing whenever he goes back.
Devil is Dill
Doubleplusgood
Wife & I are both laid off. This will be the longest we've all been home together since the kid was born. Luckily we have a big yard she can run around in. I may be spending a lot of time in the basement over the next several weeks.
2manband
Kick Henry Jackassowski
Im working from home and down to 4 days/week starting next week. Have a good backlog of stuff to get through, so should be able to stay productive for a few months on existing contracts. 1wife is a nurse so shes gotta go to work.
As far as the kids go, we have a 1yr old and a 4yr old. Fortunately, we have an au pair which is a huge advantage. I can actually focus on work stuff during the work day.
(Side story...our former Au Pair decided to fly home before shit really hit the fan so we were in a major jam last week. I drove 4 hours each way to Long Island on Thursday to pick up her replacement who is by all measures pretty awesome.)
Biggest challenge is finding stuff to do with the kids. They can only play in the backyard for so long before they get loco. Today we converted some flower beds to veggie garden, which was a winner for several reasons.
Dont know what were gonna do tomorrow.
As far as the kids go, we have a 1yr old and a 4yr old. Fortunately, we have an au pair which is a huge advantage. I can actually focus on work stuff during the work day.
(Side story...our former Au Pair decided to fly home before shit really hit the fan so we were in a major jam last week. I drove 4 hours each way to Long Island on Thursday to pick up her replacement who is by all measures pretty awesome.)
Biggest challenge is finding stuff to do with the kids. They can only play in the backyard for so long before they get loco. Today we converted some flower beds to veggie garden, which was a winner for several reasons.
Dont know what were gonna do tomorrow.
Guitar Heel
Demented Trick
Gardening is on the schedule for tomorrow. Funny how we all have so many similar ideas
telecaster911
Kick Henry Jackassowski
Flamencology
You don't deserve koa.
I will also add that my kids knowing that Dad has a serious health problem has probably made my life easier, ironically. They’re old enough to recognize the severity of my situation, they’re pretty decent kids, and they don’t want to add additional stress. I don’t even have to guilt-trip them.
Brain cancer? Five stars.
Brain cancer? Five stars.
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Deep Eddy
Argle Bargle or Foofaraw?
that is serious leverage over the kids.
my wife and I are fortunately still working and busier than ever with our jobs, and it makes it challenging to direct our 14 year old son into something other than gaming with friends.
I ageee with the suggestions for home improvement projects and cooking together. My son helped paint a closet, and he’ll help hang the bifold doors today.
Another task I I give my kids is meal planning. They need to search online or in cookbooks for recipes and create the shopping list. They seem to enjoy it, but can take some effort to get them going.
thanks to all for the ideas and suggestions in this thread. It’s appreciated.